Nicole Black
“Conscious Uncoupling: How to have a Mindful Divorce” – Watch HERE.
3rd Annual TEDxWilmingtonWomen: Showing Up // 30 November 2018

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Meet the Speakers: Nicole Black for TEDxWilmingtonWomen

Do you remember what you were doing the moment a life changing event occurred?

10:05 a.m. September 25, 2018

That was the moment I opened the email from TEDxWilmington producer Ajit George and assistant producer Elissa Ben-Eli. The subject line said “Your Official Invitation to give a TEDxWilmington talk in November.” I squealed with excitement! My smile has been ear to ear ever since then.

Serendipitously, thirty minutes prior I had been talking about my idea worth spreading. Wilmington was the final TEDx event organizer I had applied to for 2018. It was also the organizer I really wanted to work with. In May, I had watched Ajit work with his speakers. I could see he genuinely cared for and about all of them, and that was important to me.

From the second I opened my email I knew that creating this talk was going to be a full time endeavor. That may have had something to do with the nine attachments. The deadlines are strict but fair and come faster than I anticipated. My parents always taught me that you will get out of something exactly as much as you put into it. I am happy to report that indeed I do spend countless hours thinking about and working on my talk.

Is it challenging? Sure, but it is so worth it. I can’t wait to share my idea worth spreading with everyone; Conscious Uncoupling: How to have a Mindful Divorce on November 30, 2018 at the 3rd Annual TEDx WilmingtonWomen.


the TEDx process: Nicole Black for TEDxWilmingtonWomen

I hope Chris Anderson’s wife doesn’t take this the wrong way. I love him. He’s revolutionized my thought process on public speaking. His book TED Talks: The Official Guide to Public Speaking is the one I carry with me everywhere. Until on a recent trip, I forgot my copy at home. Luckily, thanks to modern technology, I was able to download an audio version. Listening to Mr. Anderson’s voice as he read aloud, really solidified for me, what areas of my talk I needed to work on.

Which led to… Eek! Someone pinch me. Twenty-four days until TEDxWilmingtonWomen and I am excited! And grateful, to have the best speaker coach ever. Having someone to help with every aspect of my talk is so beneficial. I knew it would be many hours of rehearsing and reworking my talk.  I have worked through at least 25 different versions since I started. That’s the wonderful thing about having six weeks to prepare, you can really cut every single, unnecessary word out. “Less words say more.”

This process has truly been a once in a lifetime kind of experience. Learning a new skill and refining my skills as a speaker has been rewarding beyond measure. November 30, 2018 is just around the corner, please join me in Wilmington, Delaware as 29 other speakers and I share our ideas worth spreading.


TEDxWilmington Nicole Black, Photograph by Alessandra NicoleReflecting: Nicole Black for TEDxWilmingtonWomen

Reflecting on “Showing Up” at TEDxWilmingtonWomen, I realize my life will never be the same. And I’m humbled by that thought and eternally grateful for the experience of a lifetime.

It’s strange because the reason behind a TEDx talk is to “give” to others. So, I felt a little selfish when I realized that preparing for my talk changed my own life. It isn’t just about your idea worth spreading; it’s a philosophy, a way of thinking, a new approach, a chance to interact with and get to know people you may not have met otherwise. And I don’t know if that was the plan when it was originally created, but it’s brilliant.

This talk pushed me out of my comfort zone in many ways. However, something magical happened that day. I heard my name announced, I took a deep breath and walked onto the stage. It hit me right about the time I was about to utter my first word… Wow! I have spent the past nine weeks, living, dreaming and thinking about this moment and I am speechless.

Talking about “Showing Up”, the TEDxWilmington tribe is this delightful, warm, welcoming family. Ajit, Elissa, Jake, Alessandra and Evan run this incredible production so seamlessly. What an honor to work with such talented professionals.

To prepare for a ten-minute talk, it took months of crafting and fine tuning a script. It was worth every single minute of time. Actually, I’d encourage people to put as much time as they can into every detail of their talk.

Eternally grateful to all who helped and especially my speaker coaches Geoffrey and Laura.  In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, I’d like to encourage everyone out there to think of an idea and… Apply!

Watch Nicole Black’s TEDx talk HERE.

TEDxWilmingtonWomen 2018, Photograph by Alessandra Nicole

Nicole Black is an author and Certified Rolfer™ through the Rolf Institute of Structural Integration in Boulder, Colorado. She specializes in a form of manual therapy that focuses on addressing people’s problems and not just their symptoms. A native of Southern California, she currently resides in Santa Barbara with her daughter and is the cofounder and former CEO of Renaud’s Patisserie & Bistro. When she isn’t working to promote her story of getting healthy from the inside out, she enjoys travel, yoga, Pilates, and chasing dragonflies. READ MORE

3rd Annual TEDxWilmingtonWomen: Showing Up // 30 November 2018
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