Susan Bremer O’Neill author, speaker, coach and Self Appeal® founder, took an unconventional journey to self-respect and wholeness. AFTER she got sober, she left her science career and became an exotic dancer at thirty five. Her memoir, From Sex Appeal to Self Appeal: Stripping Barriers to Recovery—Leaving Addiction, Returning to Body and Mind,chronicles the unique experience that led her to be a champion of women. Based upon her self-appeal philosophy, that all relationships start with the relationship we have with ourselves, for twenty years through coaching and workshops Susan has empowered women worldwide to embrace their bodies for authenticity, confidence, and relationship success.
Before this time, she likes to say she was brain smart but not too body smart. Susan graduated with high honors at sixteen, then as the sole woman from a Laser Technology program, again with high honors, at twenty two. Her laser electro-optics AA degree precipitated her technical career working on the NOVA laser system at Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory for nine years and in private industry traveling throughout the United States and Canada for three. She received her Bachelor of Arts Degree in 1998 from Vermont College where she focused on reading and studying personal essays about current culture, sexuality, and women’s issues.
Susan published “The Grind,” in the anthology, Flesh for Fantasy: Producing and Consuming Exotic Dance, in print magazines, most notably Men’s Healthand Gauntlet, The Modesto Bee Newspaper, and online. Her article, “Stripping the Shadow,” was included in a San Francisco State University reader for the course, “Human Sexuality Studies & Psychology.” While working with women to help them embody their playful sensuality, Susan produced the woman-friendly DVD, Striptease for Real Women, featuring ten students.
Susan has spoken at San Francisco State University, UC Berkeley, a Berkeley Chapter of the National Organization for Women, UC Stanislaus Panhellenic Society, and San Francisco Bay Area women’s groups and retreats. She has appeared on Fox News and been interviewed in San Francisco Bay Area media.
After moving to Wilmington, Delaware in 2017 with her husband and family of six rescue animals, Susan has become active in the local artist and recovery community. She regularly reads at open mics and brings her self-appeal message into women’s sober living facilities. For the general public Susan offers self-appeal workshops for women and writing workshops designed to help all people make peace with their past in order to heal themselves.
When she’s not doing all this, you’ll often find her at home making soup.